Welcome, Friend. 

I created Sleeping With The Narcemy after seeing firsthand how devastating narcissistic abuse can be. I knew that so many people were suffering in silence, believing that their partners’ toxic behaviors and actions were their fault (most likely because they were gaslighted into believing so). I want to empower victims of narcissistic abuse to regain control over their relationships – and their lives. Hence, Sleeping With The Narcemy was born. 

But first, the name. I chose Sleeping With The Narcemy (pronounced NARK-EM-E) for a few reasons. Not only was it a wink and a nod to the film starring Julia Roberts, but also because, well, it’s true. Think about it: at some point, you’ll roll over in bed, look at your partner, and come to the sad realization that you have no clue who that person is. What can be even more painful is the lightbulb moment when you understand that your partner is not your friend – they never were. They’ve always been your enemy. 

Now, to be clear, narcissistic abuse can occur in any type of relationship, from parents and other family members, a coworker, or even your kid. SWTN focuses primarily on intimate partner relationships. Backed with expert advice and first person stories from survivors, SWTN will give you the coping skills to co-parent with your narc ex, to figure out a financial plan before you drop the divorce bomb, or offer examples of exit plans you can implement so you can break free from your abusive relationship – once and for all. 

I’m not going to lie. The purpose of Sleeping With The Narcemy is not to help you save your marriage, or worse, just try to live within its confines. You see, the more you learn about narcissism, the more you might see that narcissists all seem to follow the same playbook. They use gaslighting, manipulation, lying, cheating, love bombing, verbal/physical/sexual/psychological abuse (and my personal favorite, triangulation) as a means to keep you confused, codependent, and simply stuck in the relationship. 

You deserve so much more. 

One of the worst parts of being with a Narcemy is that it’s such an utterly isolating experience. You blame yourself for all the sh*t they do, because, well, they gaslight you into believing their lies. You feel ashamed, embarrassed, heartbroken, and all of those negative emotions can make you withdraw from your healthier relationships. What you might not realize, though, is that the Narcemy is also working behind the scenes to ensure that you’re slowly cut off from your support system. 

That stops now.

Here, you will find answers to the questions that keep you up late at night. You might even find a friend or two; after all, my hope is to create a community that, together, will educate, empower, support each other and encourage us to share our stories. Most of all, I want this to be a safe space for you because I know what it’s like not to have one.

I’m happy you’re here. Let’s get to the other side together. 

Love,

Jennifer