How To Savor Sweetness Even When You’re In A Narcissistic Relationship

If you’re living in a narcissistic or emotionally abusive dynamic, pleasure can feel surprisingly complicated. Many survivors learn to associate treats with excess, shame, or self-soothing that goes too far — swinging between deprivation and overindulgence. But healing isn’t about cutting yourself off from enjoyment altogether. It’s about learning how to engage with small pleasures intentionally, without using them to numb, escape, or punish yourself afterward.

That’s where a thoughtfully chosen treat can become something different. A bomboloni from Magical Fantasia Donuts in Bridgeport, Connecticut isn’t about mindless consumption — it’s about savoring something special, enjoying it fully, and letting that be enough. These Italian-style filled doughnuts are light, pillowy, and generously filled, yet surprisingly satisfying. One really is plenty — a reminder that enough doesn’t have to feel restrictive.

Here are some flavors you need to try!

• • Pistachio Praline (praline cream, crushed praline topping)
    Even if praline isn’t usually your favorite flavor, this one is worth a try. The Pistachio Praline has a way of winning over even skeptics with its balanced sweetness and rich, nutty flavor.
  • Boston Crème Supreme (vanilla cream, chocolate and vanilla swirl ganache)
    When it comes to classic doughnut flavors, you really can’t beat a Boston Cream. Familiar and comforting, this bomboloni delivers everything you want — and then some — without being overwhelming.
  • Creamy Lemon Curd (tangy lemon curd, fresh lemon slice)
    Lemon lovers won’t be disappointed by this bright and refreshing option. The lemon flavor is bold but not overpowering, making it a perfect choice for anyone who loves citrus without too much bite.
  • Dulce de Leche (milk caramel filling, vanilla glaze, hazelnuts)
    It’s dulce de leche — do we really need to say more? This bomboloni is decadent, indulgent, and incredibly satisfying, with just the right balance of sweetness.
  • Vanilla Birthday Cake (vanilla cake filling, rainbow sprinkles)
    Move over, macaroni necklace. If you really want to celebrate your birthday in style, this is the gift you give yourself. It’s festive, nostalgic, and sharing is entirely optional.
  • S’mores (chocolate cream filling, campfire-inspired toppings)
    Nostalgic and comforting collide in this sweet ode to summer. The creamy chocolate filling is adorable on its own, but the playful campfire details make it especially fun for kids.

Craving a cookie? Magical Fantasia has those, too.

And if want something more savory than sweet, Magical Fantasia is now offering hand pies. The chicken parmigiana hand pie was the hands-down favorite.

Healing doesn’t mean denying yourself joy — it means learning how to experience it in a way that honors you and your journey. A once-in-a-while treat can be just that: a treat, not a coping mechanism, not a reward for suffering, and not something you need to justify later. When you’re present, intentional, and kind to yourself, even something small can reinforce a powerful truth: you’re allowed to enjoy life without losing control, explaining or apologizing for it, or paying for it afterward. Sometimes, self-care can look like a soothing bath—or a bomboloni.